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Tuesday , April 21, 2015

Why Do Women Keep Silent?

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The other day I was at the airport when I noticed an obnoxious older man with a pretty, young woman. I use the term obnoxious because he was cursing the woman for no reason, calling her stupid, idiotic and utterly childish. My flight got delayed and I was having a coffee while the couple who were apparently on the same flight, were sitting behind me having a drink. While the man got drunk, he became more obnoxious. The woman tried to have a conversation with him in low tones and all I could hear was, "I can't believe you can be so dumb." And "I really can't understand why you're so stupid. I mean seriously you have no brains or what?" The woman didn't say anything and looked away most of the time, fiddling with her hair and sipping her drink while I was seething with rage. "Why....

Friday , April 10, 2015

Why a video featuring 99 privileged women with hair flying across the screen doesn't serve the purpose for the common woman in India

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First of all I want to say I'm all for women empowerment. I completely agree that it is a woman's choice to get married, have a child, wear whatever she wants and choose her life and decisions. Vogue's empowerment campaigns though leave me a little confused. For example the first video was of Alia Bhatt getting into a car full of male strangers and going home safely. I love Alia. But I don't get the campaign. Yes we need to make our streets safe. But don't we also need to teach our girls and women to be aware, be safe, be bold, be vigilant, be smart. Maybe that video should have been about Alia getting out, fixing her car, holding a wrench when a car full of men drives up and says, "Thanks but I got it covered." And that should have ended with #Mychoice to be bold,....

Friday , March 08, 2013

International Women's Day: 'Kaaya', a short story for the modern woman

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Kaaya. Kaaya was always an indecisive girl. The first decision she had to make was at 5 when she was asked whether she wanted to live with her mother or her father. And all she could do was stand and think. And that's what she did for most of her life when such things happened. Stand and think. And soon enough there would be someone around, who would tell her what to say, give the answer or the question would get diverted and she would not have to make a decision. Because making a decision for her was the most daunting feeling in the world. It wasn't as if Kaaya was shy. Far from it. She was a beautiful, gregarious girl who grew up to be a gorgeous, lively woman. All the men wanted to be seen with her and all the women wanted to know....

Friday , January 04, 2013

10 points for Justice Verma to keep women safe

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Dear Justice Verma, The outrage will not stop until steps are taken. The politicians have failed. The justice system of India needs to take charge. Here are a few things you can promise the citizens of India. Do so now. The movement will not stop. The revolution has begun. 10 Point Plan to Keep Women Safe: 1. Sensitize the Police - When a rape victim comes to the police station, have a female counselor sit with her alone to record the sequence of events. The officer should not rush the victim or ask details before she has finished. Make a list of relevant questions that can be asked after she finishes speaking. Offer the victim support, food, a shawl to cover herself. Send the recorded statement to the male police officers immediately to arrest the named if any. Keep a female officer with her that night at....

Wednesday, January 02, 2013

Change my nation today

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The awakening of this nation can last only a few more days if it doesn't permeate into every soul. Everyone is already back to work in the New Year and we'll continue to have rapes, sexual assaults and suffer undignified comments. India has become one of the most unsafe nations in the world. This is not good for the citizens, it's not good for tourism, it's not good for the future generation. It needs to change now. The government of India does not seem to be doing anything productive unless the country revolts against it. Corruption, price rise and now a gang rape. And while we are all mourning the death of the 23-year-old medical student, rapes continue across the country - the two year old by her uncle, the 17 year old by 10 men for 7 days. It goes on. It needs to change. We need....

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

How grave a matter is child sexual abuse

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Child sexual abuse is a grave matter. Being a parent myself, I find that my one mission in life is to save my child from pedophiles. While all parents understand this, they may not know what to do about it. Aamir Khan the actor had an episode on his new show Satyamev Jayate on this subject. With this telecast many parents and children became aware of the dangers of child sexual abuse. Hopefully a law will come out to punish the perpetrators and parents will become more protective. I can sincerely pray that no child is subjected to such torture ever. In the meantime, all I can do is make a video to support the cause, spread awareness and speak as much as I can to all parents about it. (It was done on skype so please excuse any bad....

Sunday , May 13, 2012

Why Mother's Day is important

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If you haven't been screamed at, hated, or blocked off from a child's life, you haven't really been a good mother! I learned that when I became a mother and vowed never to do the things my mom did with me. But then I did. And I began to behave like her as well. After a point, all mothers begin to sound like each other. It begins with "Please don't touch that." and "Pick up your toys" and goes on to, "What are you wearing? You can't go out of the house in that!" Later the tone becomes more anxious, "Who is that you're friend-ing on facebook?" The preaching becoming more helpless with "How much money have you spent on that?" Finally when all else fails all mothers turn to the last resort with, "Fine, it's your decision but just know I'm not happy with it" and the perennial....

Monday , January 09, 2012

It's not okay for you to look at me that way

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I was 12 when we moved from Boston, USA to Lucknow, Uttar Pradesh. It was a huge culture shock for me. I had been living with my family in the States for over five years and I could do what I pleased there. I went to a co-ed school. We went out in groups for movies and lunches. When Madonna burst on the scene, I wore short skirts and tights. I used to go alone to the market to buy groceries for the family. I interacted with old men who were cashiers to young boys who picked things from the top shelf for me. I wore short dresses, shorts, and any old rubbish that was the fashion then. My mom hardly said anything to me as long as my grades were good. That was my life in the States. Then I came back to my country. Mom left....

Saturday , December 17, 2011

The art of manipulating men

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For women only 5 tactics to get any man to do whatever you want. Guaranteed success rate. All you need to have is a little bit of timing and a lot of control. 1. The gift of the magic: There's been something that you've wanted for a very long time. It might be that expensive bag, or that 2-day trip. It has been on your mind and you do not know how to get it out of that man of yours. The best thing to do in this situation is to give him a gift. Yes, it may sound ludicrous but it will work. It need not put a hole in your pocket. It could be something small like a nice shirt or a new pair of shoes. It has to be something he needs and will love. It cannot be a perishable item like Godiva....

Monday , November 07, 2011

5 Essential things your mom never told you

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Times have changed. It is no longer a world where the husband works and the wife looks after a house. Definitions have changed. The divorce rate has gone up and so have the insecurities that lie with a relationship. It is a new world order where it is necessary to protect yourself. Every woman should know this but no one says this aloud. 1. Never reveal your money: Women are now independent. They earn enough and they have their own bank accounts. However, as soon as they fall in love, something happens to their sense of independence. It is as if they can merge their former selves into this man and trust him enough to look after both of them. After all women have been induced with the sense that once they are married, the man will look after the woman and she will not have to worry....


More about Madhuri Banerjee

Madhuri is a comprehensive media professional, having worked in all forms of the visual medium -as a Senior Producer with Zoom TV, advertisements with White Light Motion Pictures, Director in her own production house Gray Matter Solution, documentaries as a freelancer with PSBT and commercial Bollywood films as an Assistant Director. She has worked with stalwarts like Subhash Ghai, Kaizad Gustad and Rohan Sippy, and music director Anu Malik. Madhuri graduated from Lady Shri Ram College, Delhi with a Bachelor’s degree in English Honours. She continued her education acquiring a Master’s in Mass Communication and Films from Jamia Millia Islamia. Her thesis film, 'Between Dualities' won her the National Award for best documentary on women’s issues. She is an avid reader, world traveler, and film watcher. She gives relationship advice in a column called Love Guru in the Asian Age/Deccan Chronicle every alternate Monday. She has currently finished working on a commercial film script. Her debut book 'Losing My Virginity And Other Dumb Ideas' sold over 40,000 copies in the first year of its release and was on the best seller list for over 10 weeks. Her second novel 'Mistakes Like Love And Sex' is a sequel and was released in November 2012. It’s already on the best seller list. She has her own website www.madhuribanerjee.com is active on Twitter as @Madhuribanerjee, has a Facebook page for Losing My Virginity and Other Dumb Ideas, writes for the CNN-IBN blog called Chastity Belt and has her own blog www.madhuribanerjee.blogspot.com which already has over 1,44,000 views.