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Monday , February 11, 2008

When the ex comes back to haunt...


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Nisha and Gaurav have been friends for six years now and have been dating each other for the last two years. Gaurav had been in love with Nisha from the first time the two had spoken in college. However, with Nisha it had been a bit different. When she had met Gaurav, Nisha had been in a tumultuous three-year relationship that had left her an emotional wreck. Her ex had been incapable of commitment and had been a serial womanizer. Even while Nisha's trust in relationships and her self-confidence had reached rock bottom, Gaurav had stood by her, an undemanding friend. Eventually Nisha was dumped and it took her a year to get over the scars. Slowly, Gaurav's love and patience won and Nisha veered towards him. The last two years had been bliss for the two: Gaurav got the girl he loved and having seen....


Friday , February 08, 2008

The pimps of pain...


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...OR Misery means a million bucks... Or a million hit counts, or maybe even four. 'Bad news is good news', and it hasn't been truer than it is today. We read bad news, we comment on it, we charge by the minute on it, our political ideologies center around it, we ask for votes based on it, we sell it to nations; and if there is no bad news, we create it. Lawyers, doctors and most definitely the media would go out of business if it were not for bad news and someone else's misery. Heck, we revel in misery. People dying is a news flash, kidney trade translates into TRPs and litigation, someone raped is a prime time reconstruction, a marriage breaking down is national gossip... As long as someone suffers, world economies will move, leaders will be impeached and elected, gossip magazines will sell, TRPs....


Monday , January 28, 2008

'Vag Berger' sold here...


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And you can see the sign for yourself: At one of the coffee stalls at the international terminal, Indira Gandhi International Airport, New Delhi. Welcome to India. "You can buying many things in India and you still have many money. You can eat many foods in India - some very much spicy - and you still have many money, all this I am learning when I went here in Delhi two weeks back," she said to me. The Indian hosts whose party it was and their guests roared with laughter at her description of India. Someone said, "I just LURVE her accent." She was French. I swear the grammatical mistakes she made - or weird English she spoke - was EXACTLY the kind of English many Indians (or most) speak. Yet, no one loves an Indian's accent. It's funny but never sexy. And leaving the world aside, even most....


Monday , January 21, 2008

A Smoker's Diary: The First Rush...


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... to getting hooked. So I had announced in the 'Do only bad girls smoke post?' that I was meeting a doctor who'd help me quit smoking. I did go and spend two hours sitting and talking with her. The first thing I learnt? That I don't have any oxygen in me and the carbon monoxide levels in me are 20 + ppm. For heavy smokers. Also, she asked me if there was any phlegm with my 'smoker's cough'. No, there isn't, which apparently is really bad news because it means the 'cilia' in my lungs (little hair that work as filters) are either dead or defunct. Basically, of all the 500 poisons we intake each time we take a puff, ALL are in me. "How will a doctor help?" someone had asked me, "Quitting smoking is about will power, if you don't have it, no one....


Friday , January 18, 2008

Good girls don't smoke?


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Any woman traveling in autos in Delhi will tell you that men around will stare at her, whether they are in cars, on bikes or sitting on a cycle rickshaw. Now if any woman were to light up a cigarette in an auto, it might as well create a traffic jam. Cigarettes are a serious health issue, but the moment it is a woman smoking, it becomes more than just a health issue. It becomes a yardstick to judge her character, her morality and even a question on her motherhood capabilities. It is of course assumed that every woman will make a mother and every woman wants to. For long Hindi movies - since one has seen more of those than movies in other regional Indian languages - have shown only bad girls smoking on screen. The gangster's moll (Manisha Koirala, Company), the vamp (Nadira, Shree....


Wednesday, January 16, 2008

You still cannot rape the press


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One hadn't planned out this post. In fact after Mishraji's declaration that it was the Internet - and people like yours truly - who are responsible for the Indian youth giving up the old ways and having new ideas, one didn't want to write at all. At least for a while. But this time, it was not the Mishra parivar that made one write. It was/is the Rapists. They are everywhere. Was doing my before-bed-time news headline reading on ibnlive.com when I came across the story: Rape is the fastest growing crime in India. Congratulations People! The way things are going, soon we all will know at least three women who have been raped. I am not counting the 2-month-old babies because they usually die after they have been raped. Like the two-and-a-half-years old INFANT who had her throat slit by her neighbour, of course....


Tuesday , January 15, 2008

Sex is against the Indian culture


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It was a perfect January morning till the madly chiming doorbell woke one up. After no interaction with one's elderly neighbour Mishraji for a fair bit, there he was, standing at my door, in his pyjama-kurta and looking very angry. One opened the door and waited. For a minute Mishraji just stood glaring, then pointing a finger at one's nose said, "You lied. You are NOT a journalist, I know WHAT you are." Having just woken up - that too rudely - one mumbled something about showing him the appointment letter and immediately wished one had kept shut. "I don't care what your appointment letter says madame. How is that you work for a TV company and I have never seen you on TV?" Mishraji demanded. One pointed out that one worked for the Internet company owned by the TV channel and not... "STOP lying madame!"....


Saturday , January 05, 2008

Real-life horror stories...


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... and how common sense beats molestation The earlier article giving practical, tried-tested suggestions to tackle molestation -- A woman's guide to fend of molestation --- received some peculiar remarks. Some bordering on "why are you being moral brigade" and others on how it was "school book-ish and preachy." While one was expecting some of the what-are-you-saying responses, one felt the need to share some of the incidents -- personal as well as happened with friends -- that lead to the common sensical realisations made in the earlier article. That said, HERE are the incidents that lead to some of the suggetions: Hope they're titillaing enough for you. Don't talk to strangers, or at least don't be stupid about it. Case A: Girl meets famous writer's brother at party, they have common friends too. Numbers are exchanged, they meet for a couple of coffees, send SMSes back and forth....


Saturday , January 05, 2008

Real-life horror stories...


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... and why common sense beats molestation The earlier article giving practical, tried-tested suggestions to tackle molestation -- A woman's guide to fend of molestation -- received some peculiar remarks. Some bordering on "why are you being moral brigade" and others on how it was "school book-ish and preachy." Someone also pointed out that the pointers were elementary common sense. That though is the truth that it IS elementary common sense (what is exemplary common sense though?) and therefore most people don't use it. While one was expecting some of the what-are-you-saying responses, one felt the need to share some of the incidents -- personal as well as happened with friends -- that lead to the common sensical realisations made in the earlier article. For those who didn't 'understand' the earlier pointers: Please pick a fight next time you are drunk at a pub and cant stand straight....


Monday , December 31, 2007

Marriage or a million bucks?


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Most random conversations over coffee eventually lead to relationship-talk, is what one has figured in 2007. Fashion designer, free lance writer, brother, aspiring model, senior editor, dear friend, anonymous critique... All conversations have eventually lead to talks about men-women, status quo, marriage, money and sometimes, love and sex. If one weren't talking, umpteen researches on everything from virginity to how your boss was affecting your sex life were constantly in the news. While 2007 proved to be the Year of the Sex Research, it was also a year of candid conversations. Marriage was still first on the priority list for many. One would love to say it's all about love is in the air. But is it? Even as Pinkiji dumped Sam and research declared that at least sex was all about lust and not love, a fun survey was....


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