New Delhi: In an age where people tend to be judged for their looks and weight as well, how hard is it to be fat in India? How hard is to come back from what media professional Kalli Purie calls the dark zone?
At the first glance, it's hard to register that Kalli Purie, a mother of two, really has to worry about her weight. She says she has written a book, tracking 43 diets she has been on, 'Confessions of A Serial Dieter' as an insurance policy so she never gets back to her old self.
Kalli said, "A lot of people in the zone are not dealing with it. I used to look at the mirror when I was 100 kg and say 'yes I'm fat, but I still have cheekbones and my waist is okay', and at this point my waist is 42 inches! I can say this that now, I have the confidence that I will stay this thin, and the book is my insurance policy!"
Kalli documents the journey itself with considerable humor, but is clear that it hasn't been easy.
"There was so much emotional cleansing to come to that space, to say this is one aspect of my life. It doesn't define everything I do. But it used to. I wanted to lead this life, be this person that I couldn't be. I was stuck in that fat suit, had to unzip it and come out and do all the things I wanted to do. All the the things I can do with losing the weight. Not just looking good," Kalli said.
The fear of being fat again does persist, but there's no doubt that dropping those 40 kgs has changed all her relationships.
"Relationship at work has changed, relationship with my family has completely changed. There was a real love-hate relationship with my mom, my dietician. Seeing someone you love put on weight and not be their best is very difficult, she would always be fighting with me. Of course my relationship with my husband has changed and with all my friends also. Apparently I'm much happier, livelier, more energetic. I'm not bitter, it used to come out when I was overweight," Kalli said.
"When you're at your happy weight, it's liberating. It really is for me a new life," she added.